Feng Shui & Dating : 5 Really Big Feng Shui Red Flags

Single men & women of the world, please pay attention.  If you are seriously looking for a life partner, there is a tremendous amount you can tell about how someone loves, how they view things like sex and kids (despite what they say) and even how much they really want to be in any relationship just from walking around their home.  I have tried to look past these signs in my own life, but certain ones leap out at you and can not be ignored.

1. One nightstand, and the bed smushed up against the opposite wall= caution.  Um, they don’t really want a relationship, and if you get into one, you may feel both trapped and totally ignored since this person is living primarily for his or herself exclusively.

2. A bed on the floor (no bedframe) = meh.  You may be dragged into a world of childish, somewhat romantic “squatting”.   They are fine to casually date, but if you are seriously looking for a life partner, get out of there. Ditto for no headboard.  Sorry kids, if you want a life partner you need a stable bed.

3. Giant TV in the bedroom = a likely avoider of life and not a good sign that there is room for you AND that giant TV that pipes “virtual entertainment” as a companion into that room every day when you are not there.

4. A bed placed with its headboard on the wall to the left of the entrance-door wall= welcome to “hanging out” and being confused as to whether or not you will ever become a girl/boyfriend.  Often it will drag on for a long time, these relationships if you enter them, because you are “friends” and there’s drama and you probably aren’t the only one they are with.

5. A bed that has its headboard is up against a bathroom wall, especially against a wall with a toilet plumbing running through the wall= a draining life force situation.  Um, I’m not sure whether or not this person is aware that their energy is literally being sucked from him or her every night, but there is something resonant I’ve found in that people set up this way in their homes literally suck the energy out of other people in a similar way as the plumbing does.  I have never truly put my finger on this one until observing it so many times that its become red flag #5!

And, of course, no one is perfect and furniture (and lives) can change… but no one changes for anyone but themselves! And, they do so when they want to, not when you want them to!  Good luck in love! xoxo Dana

(all images via Apartment Therapy)


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Melissa August 29, 2012 at 10:15 pm

What is the thinking with the bed placement on the wall specifically to the left of the entrance? Is it better on the right? What if you can’t place the bed on the wall opposite the door?

Danny August 30, 2012 at 6:28 pm

Isn’t this all completely subjective and contingent on an ideal living situation? What if one’s room is too small for a nightstand on either side of the bed and the only place the bed will fit is on a bathroom wall to the left of a door because of the shape of the room, window location, furniture, etc? Seems like this is more of a “5 Really Big Feng Shui Red Flags if They Have an Ideal Bedroom”.

danaclaudat August 30, 2012 at 6:56 pm

Very well said, but we all pick our spaces or land in them based on what is happening in our lives. I can look back to certian times and see clearly that even though I was staying in a home for a few mos, etc, my bedroom reflected where I was at, idea or not ideal. Every space can be improved, and yes, though these may seem ‘general’ they are generally correct. For example, if a man/woman is ready for a serious relationship he/she is generally at a point in life where there is choice over living situations. If you are at a point where you have no control over where you live or how you live, that might be a bigger sign that it might be a better time to create a stable personal foundation than any other feng shui cue! Great observation & I hope this makes sense! x dana

Sisa September 2, 2012 at 12:31 pm

What about a guy with no nightstands at all? Is that a red flag as well?

danaclaudat September 2, 2012 at 3:34 pm

Yes it is, yes it is!!!!

Sisa September 3, 2012 at 10:32 am

Thanks Dana! xxx

MalignedMalesEverywhere October 3, 2012 at 5:26 pm

I’d like to mention that some rooms permit multiple options, and some are extremely limited vis-a-vis bed placement, night tables, etc. So to infer a person’s emotional openness, worldview, etc strictly from the placement, or absence of, certain articles could be an error. Maybe the room’s just tight ;-]

danaclaudat October 3, 2012 at 5:41 pm

This theory suggests nothing about someone’s overalls emotional availability or worldview, however, if you happen to select or wind up with due to whatever circumstances a bedroom so small that you are in a situation where there is barely room to exit or enter your bed, or the like, it tends to follow that circumstances may not be right (note the may!) to find a life partner, cultivate a relationship, etc. you don’t need a mansion to do so, and just about any space- including the smallest- can be improved. It is the effort that demonstrates the energy to make space for another. Hope that clears things up!

Bhavin October 22, 2012 at 4:35 pm

Hi, what can I do if I have no option but to place my single bed with the headboard against a bathroom wall. This is the only place I can place my bed and both walls of my bedroom are next to bathrooms. Are there ways I can counter the bad feng shui arising from this situation? (I have no option but to keep it in that position). I have had it like this for 20 years!! Your help/solution would be greatly appreciated.
Kind Regards

danaclaudat October 24, 2012 at 10:22 pm

I’m gonna blog your response today! xoxo Dana

Marinua November 21, 2012 at 10:38 pm

how about persons that have no house, have a traveling nomad life.
travel from hotel room to hotelroom, everything they own in one or two suitcases.
like artists and models (most of time jetset glamour billionairs)
what is your opinion on that?
general / life overall?

danaclaudat November 22, 2012 at 10:04 pm

great question. there’s some stuff on hotel feng shui on the blog, i’d need to dig it up. you know, there is a give and take to living in the “jetset” fashion to the extreme- a lack of foundation, a potential lack of family/intimacy bonds (unless a whole family lives out of suitcases)- but if you are moving from one glamorous place to another, there is a vast gorgeousness to the way that these environments can energize your life. Id say it would need to be looked at case-by-case… Great question! xx

Nora January 2, 2013 at 5:33 am

Hi Dana, my name is Nora and I just had a ? Is it bad to have a black curtain infront of the bed? I placed it infront to separate it from the rest of the room, it’s a studio room.

Nora January 2, 2013 at 5:41 am

Hi Dana, my name is Nora and I just had a ? My room is a studio room, enough space for a small living room and my bed. I wanted to seperate the space, so i added a black curtain infront of the bed? and also because my bed faces my closet, which has no door…I would greatly appreciate your advice 🙂 Ty

danaclaudat January 2, 2013 at 6:26 pm

Hi, that sounds fine! I’d put another curtain of some himd over the open closet.

Sarah B July 21, 2013 at 9:33 am

How about a futon bed?!? :/ No “frame” or headboard… (I hate headboards, for some reason…) Thanks 🙂

danaclaudat August 2, 2013 at 12:37 am

not the easiest, but definitely still shoot for nightstands and great “futon” placement.

Sarah B August 2, 2013 at 1:41 pm

Thanks a lot! 🙂 I added a nightstand and my futon is placed in my “success” area, according to my KUA number 🙂 Hope it will work…

maria August 17, 2013 at 12:41 am

Hi Dana! What can I do since the only place I could place my bed is against the bathroom wall and below my entire room is the laundry room too!??. I placed a headboard already against the wall. Thanks for your big help!! 🙂

danaclaudat August 19, 2013 at 5:15 pm

keep the plumbing excellent, work on your bathroom to make it feel great, perhaps put a small, lightweight mirror overhead too, over the bed… and don’t worry. if its all you can do its all you can do. 🙂

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