A reader asked a really interesting question about whether or not her room’s design could be a factor in her life’s condition: “I came across your site as I was researching about bedroom feng shui. It occurred to me that there might be something wrong with my room as I’ve been experiencing very low physical energy for years (I’m always tired and sickly) plus it seems like my love life is not moving! Finances seem to always be a challenge no matter how much I earn.
I have a very enclosed room – it’s like a bomb shelter, you don’t hear anything that goes on outside. To the left of my window is a covered garage. Over my room is a terrace with a roof. I’m sending pictures here for your look-see.
I am beginning to feel that maybe my room contributes a lot to my energy, because despite the successful work I have done on myself and in my life, it seems my energy is still being dragged down. Could my room be a factor?”
Short answer: yes, your room could be compounding and also reflecting the issues you are dealing with in terms of feeling stuck and tired.
Why? First of all, the idea that you could even use the term “bomb shelter” to describe a room says much about how you feel in the space. Its a very loaded and descriptive word which points to the idea that you are somewhat extraordinarily isolated, perhaps both in your life and in the design/feng shui of your space. I am not going to jump to big conclusions, but I will start by saying that the opposite of this extreme quietude is extreme connection to life and loudness, and ideally, we’d want you to meet life in the middle.
Elementally there is a ton of earth in your room. That is “stuck” energy in and of itself. Earth element is creative and grounding, but in excess it is confining and creatively debilitating. Too much of a good thing becomes bad. I would look at ways of incorporating more fire (red, orange, pink, purple), a bit more metal (actual metal would be great) and a splash of water (glass vases?) in the space.
Another quick tip: no books behind your head. Its like sleeping with all sorts of messages echoing at your head. Also, its clutter. And not-sexy.
I’d find ways to add the connection your need to the outside world. While I rarely suggest plants for a bedroom, here a healthy plant that is indigenous to your area would be amazing. As would some art or photographs of areas of life and your community/area that you want to connect to more clearly and actively. You also could use some sparkle. Vintage sparkly glass kick knacks, etc. Light, too. You need more light, natural light if possible!
Although these tips are more general in nature, its important to understand that, ultimately, the steps to greater connection to life go far beyond your feng shui, or, serve as an extension of it. Socializing more, group exercise or yoga classes, immersion in culture, joining groups that share your interests— all a huge part of this “connection-building”.
Let me know what you decide to do…and please send me pics! Wishing you the best!
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