Sometimes if things stay the same for too long, we start to atrophy. Whatever isn’t growing is slightly in a decline. Or steeply on a decline. Nothing just “stays the same”. When we hold onto things and refuse to let them go, its as if we want things to stay exactly as they are. You can’t freeze time by freezing objects in place. Holding onto “stuff” that isn’t needed can be a big- and emotionally-rich- problem for many.
While I planned to take a full day off today, the wise words of a client echoed in my mind as I woke from a long nap and I had to share them!
This fabulous woman with a great new home and a great new marriage had some trauma in the past, as it seems many of us have experienced. As a consequence, she didn’t want to let go of things. Actual things. Papers, home goodies that were extra, stuff that had built up… All accumulated. She knew that it was a problem and she actually knew what was underlying this need to hold onto stuff at its core.
She read it somewhere and identified it as something she was doing:
When you don’t want to let things go, you aren’t trusting that the universe will take care of you in the future and bring you another or more if you need it.
Light bulbs went off in my mind.
My clients- and all of you who tune in to read and share and experiment- are really my teachers, and I can’t tell you how grateful I am for you!
Now, let’s pull that string and see where it leads.
When you don’t want to let things go, you aren’t trusting that the universe will take care of you in the future and bring you another or more if you need it.
- Do you trust that if you let go of relationships that feel wrong at their core that new ones will come in the future?
- Do you trust that if you let go of a job that is abusive that you will find another one?
- Do you trust that if you toss that junk that makes you feel immobilized- everything from old books to newer clothes to extra anything that is building up- that you will be able to have more in the future?
- Do you believe that if you invest money in yourself in ways that are called for- your wellness, your self-care, your family, your education- that it will come back to you?
In some sense, letting go of things is vital to stay in the flow of life. We have to be willing to let go of things that no longer fit to have space for things that do. This is not to say that everything is disposable… but it is to say that when you really need to create space and you know what is needed… sometimes you have to let go of a few things to welcome that new one in!
Very basic old school feng shui tips for attracting a love relationship- I think they were even shared in that book The Secret– involve letting go of extra things in your drawers or closet in your bedroom so that you have space for someone to share your life with you. The most effective money “cures” I have seen and used often have more to do with letting go of things that are taking up time, energy and, of course, space, than they do with adding lots of things to a home.
In order to do all of this, of course, you have to be willing to trust that you’ll be supported in your dreams by whatever forces in the Universe you believe in to be true.
Its not always instant, but I have never seen it not be a good thing to let go of what no longer fits.
I have friends who have quit their jobs to start businesses, burned through their money before making it big, only to find new jobs… when… suddenly… the big opportunities they wanted for themselves and their personal endeavors appear. I’ve seen people move across the country and let go of everything they had for a relationships thousands of miles away, only to find that the relationship was not what they thought it was… but the new place they lived held all kinds of other magic and advancement for them. Including new love.
Radically turning your life upside down is not required. Letting go of things you have lugged around- from old ideas to old habits to old furniture- that no longer fits- is often required. Trust that you are making space for the new, and let yourself sit in that new space where you can stretch and breathe and dream a little bigger. Allow new things to come in. Let life expand a bit… then a whole lot!
Are you excited at the prospect?!
I know I am!
xoxo
Dana
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Thank you! the posts are always so poignant when I read them, especially this birthday week of mine
Happy Birthday tonight, tomorrow, all week!!! You have a holiday day for your birthday- how fitting!!! Celebrate hugely!!! xoxoxo
“Let go and let God!” Thanks for the reminder to check that tendency to control, and to give up to get what you really need.
What an inspiring article! Thank you for sharing this. Really made me think about why we are always clinging to materially things.
Oops material things I meant
Thanks for reminding me let go all the things we don’t really need anymore thanks a lot 🙂
xoxo always reminding myself, too 🙂
So timely! Becoming a mother required that I make space for my baby. I let go of cds, books, hair products, junk in my medicine cabinet, excessive throw pillows and cleared all my counter space in my home. Now with my little one, I feel like I have so much space for her to explore.
I am working on letting go of pictures and mementos. I trust that new experiences will fill my life up just as the old ones did. i am ready for a beautiful new divine experience.
how lovely! open up to the new!!!