If you don’t feel like you at your best, and it’s been a long time you’ve been idling in this place, you might need a real immersion in your own self-love.
It takes time, patience and the willingness to put yourself first… no matter the feedback you get.
It’s easy to hear feedback on how “selfish” it is to be so “self-involved” but in my experience, the people who’ve called me selfish also have taken loads of energy and resources from others with no exchange and a big dose of entitlement.
There’s nothing selfish about making your life about your own wellbeing first and foremost, because then you have energy to give! And if you’re not feeling like yourself, this act of self-compassion will do wonders for your life.
Today, I’m excited to share lots of scientific research and hard-won wisdom from my sister Nicole who has lived this life re-boot in profound ways.
We all want the “good” life, and we are taught that in order to attain this, we must work hard, be the best and give 110%. The trappings a good life entails are usually a loving, responsible partner, a nice house, healthy well-behaved children, and a good stable job. If you really think about all these wonderful things, you will realize that it is not only labor intensive to attain them, but each one requires a lot maintenance, expending a great deal of physical and mental energy. Relationships, no matter how good, are subject to the same unpredictability and the same ups and downs as life. They take work. Rearing children…it takes work. Keeping a house clean and in good order….it takes work. And lastly…WORK…takes work. Sometimes, we all need to recharge and reboot ourselves to get our mojo back.
9 Signs That You Need To Recharge Yourself
- Exhaustion: We are all human and have a mental and physical cap. Though this threshold varies in each individual, we are all susceptible to BURNING OUT. You will be easily fatigued, find it difficult to get out of bed, and will find it hard to get through the day without dreaming of resting your head on a pillow.
- Interpersonal Problems: You may notice that you are more quick-tempered and snappy at home, with friends and even co-workers. This can become a cycle of your own downward demise. The more you treat others poorly, they will treat you poorly back. It can perpetuate negativity, in a situation where positivity is integral.
- Negative Feelings About Yourself: Where life used to seem full of promise and opportunity, suddenly you don’t feel capable of achieving or keeping those opportunities. Your perception of your self is veering to the negative spectrum where things seem impossible, instead of possible.
- Apathy: You’ve lost your zest and zing. Nothing seems to excite you. You’ve lost drive and desire. Things that were once important to you, no longer bear any significance and to an apathetic person, it doesn’t matter.
- Declining Performance At Work: When people BURN OUT, they generally find it difficult to concentrate and focus. This could lead to difficulty performing well at work and might be construed by co-workers as a lack of ambition, drive and eagerness.
- High levels of Anxiety: Anxiety creeps up in many forms, but when it rears its ugly head, you will most definitely know it. You may experience a rapid heartbeat, shortness of breath, an inability to just sit still, or sometimes a warped feeling…like you are on a far off planet looking in on the world.
- Neglecting Your Health: Have you lost your appetite or your desire to look good? When overwhelm presents itself, we prioritize…everything seems overwhelming, and unfortunately, usually, we neglect the most important thing …ourselves. It is way easier to take care of someone else than it is to confront yourself.
- Loss of Being Able to Enjoy People and Experiences: What used to be fun isn’t and who used to make you feel good, just doesn’t do the trick anymore. You may feel like it’s hard to let your hair down so to speak, due to the overwhelm you feel. There might be guilt attached too…like, how dare I enjoy myself when I have so many serious important things to take care of.
- No Sense of Accomplishment: Accomplishments are personal…people can be proud of themselves for reading a book a week, while others who never thought they could run a mile…accomplish it and feel a sense of pride. Someone who is in serious need of a re-charge can’t find anything to pat themselves on the back for.
Some Holistic Ways To Re-Charge and Re-Boot
Laugh more often: Although laughter is not the absolute cure all, it does have some amazing effects on our stress levels, perception of life, and even our health. In an article on Stress Management by the Mayo Clinic staff, they found that laughter can relive stress and anxiety, help relieve physical pain, ease tension, and even improve your immune system. You can learn more here.
It might be time to figure out what makes you giggle and do it more often.
Keep a journal of things you are thankful for: Gratitude is important. Keep a journal and write down everyday the things in your life that you are thankful for. It can be a simple smile from a stranger or a loving hug…it’s all worthy of appreciation. Reputable gratitude researcher, Robert A. Emmons, PhD, confirms in the Forbes article 7 Scientifically Proven Benefits of Gratitude That Will Motivate you To Give Thanks Year Round that gratitude effectively increases happiness and reduces depression.
Meditate: Breathe, relax, and recharge. There is nothing better than surrendering yourself to the soothing sounds of the ocean or focusing on someone whisper positive messages to you as you relax your mind and body. Sara Lazar, neuroscientist at Harvard Medical School, explains the way in which meditation affects your brain in this article in THIS interview in the Washington Post. You can also find meditation videos for free on YouTube. HERE is one I like to listen to.
Take a detox bath: Baths are not only a great way to be alone a de-stimulate from a tough day, but they can improve your health as well. HERE is an amazingly powerful and easy recipe you can probably find in your cupboard.
Do something for yourself at least twice a week: Remember who you are! Do you like to paint, draw, dance, hike….or have you always been interested in something, but was to afraid to try your hand at it. Go for it…you only live once.
Your own full-tank of energy is vital. Your energy tank stays full with lots of clear space and lots of self-love.
The 30 Day Negativity Detox is a commitment to happy-making, mirror-polishing, life-lifting and simple space shifting for 30 days. It’s loaded with lots of actions (some you may know for sure even if you’ve never fully practiced them, some you’ve likely never seen or heard of…!) that can help you detox from your own negative stuff, uncover more of your greatness and light, and see happiness everywhere you look…! There’s feng shui, there’s life-shifting, there’s lots of creativity… and it’s a daily commitment to a positive life shift… which is a positive life shift already!!!
And you can start right HERE! I’m doing the first 30 Days with you, so let’s get started!!!
Thank you for this article. I’m well overdue for a reboot and need to take some time for myself. You have given me the clarity to get that ball rolling.
I thank you for your positive feedback!!! xo
I stumbled upon your website through Pinterest. You can’t imagine how much I needed to read this…I’ve been experiencing all the above symptoms and I was going crazy trying to figure out what’s happening and how can I get out of this terrible state. Thank you for the advice, your website is the first thing I see when I open my browser now 🙂
Keep up the great work!
welcome! i’m thrilled to have you here! xoxoxoxo