What you are creating is being mirrored in the effects around you.

Realize how you’re creating your life and the effect it’s having on other people, and you’ll be remarkably free.

You judge, you’ll be judged.  You create distance, you’ll experience distance.  You give up, the world will give up on you.

If you’ve despised this concept because how or why or what could possibly be reflected in the mirror of the craziness you’ve experienced…you’re not alone. I was extremely suscpicious of this mirror effect.  What could I possibly have in me that’s brought me unhinged addicts who don’t want any help, toxic people who pulled my focus, manipulative situations that were heartbreaking, liars and very big and ominous secret keepers?

Where in me was the addict, the toxic ideas, the neediness, the secrets and distortions?

I had none of it in me. I couldn’t see it at all in any part of my values, desires, wishes, actions, thoughts… none of it.

Until I learned that beneath the surface of my conscious mind was a world of ideas and programs I absorbed since I was a small child.  These ideas and programs included: watching women (many) who were addicted to toxic relationships plummet and suffer, hearing the stories of how people can’t be trusted, seeing people falling to pieces over love that failed rather than moving on after the grief was done (it was never done), hearing about the duplicitousness of people, the drama, the issues that crumbled virtuous lives.

I may not have believed any of it consciously, but I absorbed it all from a very young age. From screaming fights to utter ruin of lives based on blame.

What did you see and absorb in your own life?

Could that be what’s being “mirrored” all around you?

Luck has nothing to do with it.  Beliefs have everything to do with it.  Even the beliefs we can’t SEE. They just spill out everywhere.  They are reflected everywhere.

If something keeps repeating, perhaps it’s you who is the emanating source of it?

All of our relationships are expressed in actions, thoughts and words. These thoughts, actions and words mirror our own.  I recenly came upon old emails that showed me, many years after losing a friendship in great mistrust, how that relationship mirrored exactly where I was at the moment.  It’s sometimes easier to see later… but right now is where the biggest opportunity for change lies, without, perhaps, breaking relationships in the process.

Everything in feng shui shows how our lives are just one big mirror, actually.

From your furniture to your files, your sweater to your pen, feng shui shows us how what and who we surround ourself with mirrors our inner needs, desires, beliefs… even things we can’t see clearly for ourselves are reflected right back at us in our environment.

Same goes for your relationships, say many wise folks.  HERE is so much more about how relationships are your mirrors.  I think you’ll love it. 

So, while you can’t change anyone, you certainly can change yourself if you see an effect being mirrored back at you from people in your life that’s not cool.  You certainly can change if you see a pattern.  

You just can’t count on the mirror still reflecting the same people or places or jobs or even hair colors (!)  when you decide to change what you don’t like that you see being relected back to you in the mirror of your life.   All you can do is keep bringing the best you to the table and let the rest come together; the right reflections always come together!

Polish the mirror of your life and you’ll always feel you are creating the best reflections.

Clean up your house and you’ll support your greatest intentions!

xoxo Dana

 

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The Joy Immersion is a 30 day negativty detox and a month of happy-making, mirror-polishing, life-lifting and simple space shifting!

It’s loaded with lots of actions (some you may know for sure even if you’ve never fully practiced them, some you’ve likely never seen or heard of…!) that can help you detox from your own negative stuff, uncover more of your greatness and light, and see happiness everywhere you look…! There’s feng shui, there’s life-shifting, there’s lots of creativity… and it’s a daily commitment to a positive life shift… which is a positive life shift already!!!

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And you can start right HERE!  I’m doing the first thirty days with you, so let’s get started!!!

xoxoxo Dana