As I’ve come to define it: fully, completely, totally & unequivocally committed to something, someone or, most vitally, yourself. No doubts, no huge fears, no monstrous worries… and nothing can stop you.
That’s a very big place to be.
Most of the time if something’s not working- be it a project or a friendship or a living situation or anything- there’s a foot out the door.
What would happen if you cancelled out that “maybe not” feeling?
When I have clients that get excited at change and then don’t implement the change they are so into, first things I ask is… What do you think is causing the resistance?
Usually we know on some level why we don’t want to go all-in, and here are some of the reasons I’ve seen, felt and lived…
Anywhere you can’t really fully commit even though it seems like the right thing to do, there’s some sort of a block.
This is simple. After all, if nothing was in the way and you seem to want something badly, it should be easy to go all-in, right?
Are there really glaring actual reasons you can see that prevent you from wanting to throw your heart and soul into something… but you maybe don’t want to admit it?
Some blocks are justified: I once worked for a person that I came to see was a criminal mind and when I started to back out of my feeling of passion for my job the reasons (and potential sketchy crimes) I was asked to commit floated to the surface.
If you find yourself immediately creating excuses, as I did by saying that my boss was never actually convicted of a crime though he was accused more times than anyone on the planet, you might want to dump the excuses and get super-clear on what’s in front of you and how much you want to engage with it…
Are you afraid of success? It’s a real thing. And it’s worth exploring it.
Mind Tools published these symptoms of Fear Of Success that are very enlightening:
“If you experience the following thoughts or fears, you might have a fear of success on some level:
- You feel guilty about any success you have, no matter how small, because your friends, family, or co-workers haven’t had the same success.
- You don’t tell others about your accomplishments.
- You avoid or procrastinate on big projects, especially projects that could lead to recognition.
- You frequently compromise your own goals or agenda to avoid conflict in a group, or even conflict within your family.
- You self-sabotage your work or dreams by convincing yourself that you’re not good enough to achieve them.
- You feel, subconsciously, that you don’t deserve to enjoy success in your life.
- You believe that if you do achieve success, you won’t be able to sustain it. Eventually you’ll fail, and end up back in a worse place than where you started. So you think, “why bother?”” (article is HERE)
Once you realize it’s success that you fear, some counseling or self-reflection can help you start building up your confidence and feelings of worthiness!
Are you too confused, un-grounded or settled within yourself to make a big commitment?
The giant reason I spent much of my twenties in perpetual non-commitment and half-commitment was very simple: I didn’t really know what I was doing with my life or where to put my energy, and every step I took to figure it out created more confusion. I was super-cluttered and super-spaced-out. So… how would I be able to accurately see if I was committing to something good?
As a result, I never fully committed.
It’s not a good place to be from my experience…!
It’s so unstoppably powerful to commit.
Start by committing to yourself.
Clearing away the clutter and confusion in your life starts by creating a healthy environment. Surround yourself only with the things, people and ideas that you are wholly sure support your greatest good through and through. Simple food. Simple spaces. Simple habits.
When you feel more centered and calm, you can go forward and clear away all the stuff that’s been building up as piles of junk, closets full of clutter and drama and chaos looming outside of your very simplified life.
You’ll know what feels right. You’ll have a better sense of what is for you and when something’s not for you, then you can release it without making excuses or getting tied up in knots and regrets.
In clear space, when you see the right things, the right ideas and the right spaces and people, you’ll feel it profoundly and you’ll soar immensely when you commit and go all-in.
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