Detox from negativity and you’ll totally transform your life.
I was going to call this post something like “How To Get Stuck To Life-Squashing Negativity Forever & How To Finally Break Free If You Dare”…!
That’s what it feels like to be in a really deep toxic situation in my experience: an endless, confusing, anxiety-filled, space-squashing, blame-filled rollercoaster of highs and lows.
But, I’ve come to see that all of our own negativity is a layered and personal experience. For some, its righteous anger and beliefs that make that anger feel justified as it drains the love from life. Sometimes, it’s a familiar and scary storm. Other times it’s a low-grade draining dissatisfaction that covers everything in nebulous clouds of grey. It can be wildly drama-fueled (and addictive!) or totally sad and super-confusing.
There’s no one-size-fits-all type of negativity and no magic-pill solution. But, there’s a way out of every kind of negativity, most certainly. And if you’re ready to go on the journey, I’m positive you can unhook yourself from your own crazy-making stuff and, most likely, transform your life in surprising ways in the process!
To know me is to know that I nearly died- twice- from incredibly toxic stress. It’s what set off an autoimmune condition I didn’t know I had. It set me off into the feng shui adventure to fix my own space and my own life. I wanted to survive and finally thrive without feeling intense stress that became a habit. On so many levels my life transformed, flourished and became peaceful.
But, I wasn’t done with my own demon hunting and negative storms. I needed to detox from negativity. As much as I wanted to believe I was done with my need to declutter my own life, I wasn’t.
But, are we ever done growing?
And nothing’s ever perfect.
When I got sick, it was a no-brainer to step away from the obvious toxic stuff and detox from negativity in my life. But… it was when I fell so deeply in love, in a relationship that became a remarkable storm of chaos that I didn’t know how to manage, well, that was the most humbling, confounding and profound bottom to hit that I’d ever experienced.
Have you been there?
I can be incredibly hard to to break free from negativity when it’s powerfully linked to love. It’s impossible-seeming to have space and clarity in any deeply chaotic situation you’ve become attached to- a beloved career full of drama, a friendship that took a negative turn, toxic ties to people you care about deeply…
But… it’s proven to be the way to freedom and success in every imaginable way to find happiness and live in happiness. Happiness is vital and life-giving.
It was even harder to see that I was creating much of what I was experiencing. We all create it, as weird as it sounds. And that means we can un-create it, too!
Whether it’s constant draining stuff you’re tolerating every day that’s slowly eroding your happiness or some very obvious negative drama-chaos that’s in your space, you can change it.
If you feel like you’re working so hard on managing stress and managing drama and managing life just to stay above water, stuck in confusion so deep that it’s overcoming your life, if there’s a rollercoaster you feel that just doesn’t stop, your fortune is disappearing (literally, losing money and opportunities), you feel achey and look dimmer and smaller and weaker than usual, you’re constantly in a whirl of chaos, or so over it all that it seems like it will never end and there’s no use trying… YOU CAN CHANGE THIS!
You can detox the negativity from your life.
There are few wild bits of science that helped me find my way out of the dark, like the fact that emotions are contagious, that if you’re not in alignment with the values and energies around you, you’ll feel weak… that we’re much more creative and well and effective if we live in love that is demonstrated in actions… that toxic cycles can be a habit both consciously and subconsciously…
And: like all habits, this negativity cycle can be broken.
When I found myself in a spaced-out, stressed-to-death, spinning, sleepless, anxiety-filled relationship that I couldn’t see my way out of, I finally had to surrender.
Detoxing negativity became a full-time job for a month, then, two, then three… and as I excavated this confounding situation I started to see that it was all a mirror of stuff within me. It had nothing to do with anything else or anyone else.
When I say it was a full-time job, I mean it. I went to the wildest healers, the deepest therapies, cutting edge nutritionists and every type of expert on any pinnacle I could get my hands on. All the simple habits I knew but didn’t practice consistently- and super-next-level therapies and actions- plus all the commitment I made to finally feel happy again- along with the wild demon-hunt I found myself on— it brought ease to my life that I never thought I would feel. It brought me grounded balance, awareness, energy and a sense of self-love I didn’t know was possible to feel. I woke up one day so full of energy and so ridiculously happy I didn’t know what to do with myself…!
The gift of all this drama, all the tears and all the struggling was a whole new daily life that was far beyond anything I could ever have imagined. Love became easy. I realized I suddenly didn’t have to fear anything because I was creating everything. I saw how much space in my mind and my home was filled with toxic junk and how much needed to change… and with each change I felt stronger and brighter.
The simplicity of it all, as I’ve experienced this detox from negativity, is rooted in focusing as much as possible on building happiness…everywhere… every day.
Start simple- and decide to be happier. (It is actually a decision before anything else!)
Try to see your world as a mirror of you, even if that mirror is showing you some unflattering stuff. All of it is a huge opportunity to accept yourself and others much more and to grow in ways that will lift up your life and the lives of others, too!
Commit to new ways to care for yourself that bring you clarity, calm and radiance.
Keep slaying demons the best ways you know how (*I’ve found that love and compassion work much better than anger and blame… )
And create things every day that lift you higher!
I had such a monumental time tearing up my journals filled with so many ways I was wronged, ditching all the blame I felt, and got so high on learning more about how awesome I actually was (you are so awesome, you may be amazed at how awesome you are!), and how loveable… and how much easier life could be… I made it into a guide for myself because the negativity in the world is still there and these habits were so big, I had to keep practicing them.
I created a video guide to share with my De-Cluttering Catalyst Camp online as a free bonus because it was so exciting… and soon… it became much bigger… like an immersion in itself. And it was so compelling and so many people were waiting for it and wanting it, I had to share it everywhere!
The Joy Immersion : 30 Day Negativity Detox is a commitment to happy-making, mirror-polishing, life-lifting and simple space shifting for 30 days. It’s loaded with lots of actions (some you may know even if you’ve never fully-practiced them, some you’ve likely never seen or heard of…!) that can help you detox from your own negative beliefs, baggage and the haze of heaviness, uncovering more of your greatness and light.
Welcome to Creating Genius!
It’s 50 days and 50 ways to use Feng Shui to shift your space and your routines to move from “stuck” to creatively inspired and alive.
Gather up your magic & make gorgeous dreams come true!